i have no idea why but i just have to write about this ...that too now.
(dont think dirty stuff already).
i wanna write on women's liberation and rights.
(dont bang your head yet...there's lot more).
some days ago in a shittable group i saw this poll.quoting it as well as can i can remember : "would progressive men marry a woman who's not a virgin."
i reread it to make myself sure.
and my anger was already rising.
i mean like who the hell are men to think they are higher mortals than women.i nearly sent a hate mail to that group.(note:nearly ...i didnt).
it just stayed at the back of my head...gnawing at me all the while and its still there.
there are two things i got angry about.one how can people who live in today's world yelling for women's lib. create a poll saying would men marry... if that's the case then where does the women's right to choose her husband come in....how can you treat her as though a commodity for a man to pick and choose.
second what does a woman being a virgin or not have to do with you marrying her... and that too progressive men. if men were progressive then his question would never rise.just think about it. if a guy and girl are dating seriously for some years.they really love each other.the guy wouldnt say no for they to sleep together.he would infact welcome the suggestion.but he's definitely not sure that he is going to marry her.so would he stop to think that if he slept with her that some other progressive man wouldnt marry her.and even so why does the question of it being a woman come in .shouldnt it be that a man too should a virgin...how come that part of it clearly softly unerringly undoubtedly smartly and non-chalantly left out.
its as though it totally doesnt count.i mean why would be a question men are just higher mortals.
i waited calmly for sometime.the thought raging in my head.i am still waiting to send a lashing mail to that group.but thats not the point.
more than everything what really set me off was the fact that the poll had people answering to both sides.
people actually said no.
and that too 50% of those who had voted.thats exactly half.it just means there are so many people out there who still think in this constricted manner about women.and there we are thinking that women are being liberated in rural areas...may be i should say i thought so...i didnt expect women to be totally liberated.. but atleast comparatively somewhat better than during the olden days..but now i have my doubts over it.
if we here in the city, those of us who are progressive having enough to afford the computers and the net and other services... we who are educated in accord wiht the modern day worls, we who are exposed to the realities of life, we who know that women's lib. is important(i hope that we know) actually have doubts about whether its progressive for men to marry women who mightnt be virgin's...just what is the plight of women who live in backward areas of life...

and the best part is yet to come.. most of those who voted saying no were guys.(to the best of my knowledge).
if you are asking what i did.... i didnt do anything.i didnt vote.it was too disgusting to even see the poll.according to me it shouldnt even be a question ...leave alone answering it.
its totally a women's own right to decide for herself on everything...
i wonder if it were will progressive women marry men who arent virgins would the answers have the same from those guys who had voted against it...