This is my response to blank noise.
This is for those who don’t know what it is (who I think should know)
Blank noise project:
Blank- that which is not allowed meaning, form or articulation. Noise- that which heightens , builds itself. Eve Teasing as the name suggests, is considered a joke, a prank. Eve Teasing is street sexual harassment. The project seeks to recognize eve teasing as a sexual crime and establish the issue as something that may be normal, but is unacceptable.
I am happy that something is being done at last.
But my mirth stops there.
There my ire begins.
They have taken long enough to do something.
…but the worry is it really a solution if in the process the rights of a woman are curbed. Is the purpose really achieved? Can she walk on the streets as herself?
Why should there be a question about women having to change their clothes, changing the way they dress and clothe themselves, the way they portray themselves to be to others, to the world? Why should they? Why the hell should we?
They say clothes define a man (notice it says man) and if that’s the case then how she dresses is her own right nobody has the right to tell her this is how a woman should dress. This is what is acceptable. This is what is right for her to wear, for they have no right to tell what she should wear…no bloody right.
Why on earth should they put up the clothes they wore when they were molested so that those kinds of clothes can be marked and barred. They are clothes aren’t they? they have been liked and chosen haven’t they? That woman who wore them bought them because she liked and wanted to wear them didn’t she?
Then isn’t it reason enough that those kind of clothes shouldn’t be marked.
Isn’t it reason enough that that man who finds its luring, provocative should look away if he finds himself attracted to her beauty and her body.
[ Of course she is beautiful, she is a woman and you when you find yourself staring (or if you don’t ) when you see her uncomfortable shouldn’t you look away? ].
Isn’t it reason enough that those clothes are accepted as they are because she likes to wear them, because we are a democracy, because we have to let others be as they are, because we don’t have a right to force our views on others, because we have to appreciate her individuality, because she above all is a person.
So when she walks on the roads which belongs to her as much as it belongs to those who stand and stare, those group of guys around the corner or in front of the café leaning on their bikes whistle at her, that man who walks on the pavement brushes past her
as though it’s the most natural thing in the wide world, that spectacled tight lipped man in the stiff collar thinks she should wear clothes which are more in accordance with our culture like a salwar with a dupatta.
Who are you to judge her.
Why do you judge and rate her.
How would you feel if you were stared at and rated…
What if she were asked to choose what you wear, if she were to decide what you can wear, if she for eg. said that those baggy jeans and half torn rugged looking t-shirts make you look like you are asking for it so you should wear a full hand checked shirt and ironed cotton pants. Would they agree? Would you agree?
So should she?
Then is it right that you tell her?
Don’t give a stupid excuse that its hugging her luscious curves. For god’s sake she is a woman , women have curves. And if you are lured by lust you should look away shouldn’t you?... oh yes I forget don’t i. men don’t have to look away ,its her who is feeling uncomfortable so she should look away right? She should cast her eyes elsewhere…she looks away oh oops she finds another guy staring.... May be should just look down at…. What?
What is there for her to see? The pavement? The blocks on it? The squares which makes it up? The cement? The dirt? The trash? The spit?...
There is nothing for her to look at.
It is you who should look away for women should be able to walk on the streets with their head held high. Not eyes downcast cowering in fright like what it used to be in the olden days.
What can she do that can provoke you…lets see..mmm….yes one she can wear those clothes you say which show more than cover..which we just discussed above.... or she can ….?.....ah yes she can tell you on your face to turn your head to another direction in her own words depending in intensity of how much you managed to get on her nerves….this we neednt bother discussing…its too obvious that you had it coming. If you don’t think so please go see a doctor immediately. Its very rare that a woman yells a at a man if he doesn’t deserve it. (even if you say it might not be his fault those cases are rare).

Then the question which remains is ‘why do these accidents occur?’ .
They occur because man cant control his desires and lust.
They occur because he doesn’t make an effort to control them.
(if you say he does make an effort then…what kind of effort is it when it doesn’t even have a tiny bit of effect in it?).
What is the solution?
Simple really… if you hurt me.i will in return hurt you. I will physically injure you.
I wont forgive you for your deeds for I aint Christ or mother teresa.
I will use my pepper spray on you.
I will claw at you and fight you. And if I by chance I am able to lay my hands on a weapon like a knife I will use it on you. And I wont be wrong in doing so for I will be defending on attacking.
Do you see anything wrong?

its exams again....
*sigh*i havent studided a thing as usual.its the eleventh hour now and i'm kinda waking up to the fact that i know nothing.
[i never really figured why its called the eleventh hour. i mean a day has 24 hours even if we follow the 12hr pattern nobody is going to write a exam(or do sumthing other thn....) at 12.]
its kinda annoying cause i figured some weeks ago that if i tried to do sumthing i might somehow know sumthing...or even finish the portions for one exam atleast
*sigh*
well,its not happening and yes, that is why i've given up temporarily and am sitting here writing this.
*sigh*
i'm going cuckoo.oh btw. i've written three exams already (having so far around 107 massive heart attacks,50 mild ones and around 30 nervous breakdowns.)
its still counting...so if i'm not alive by the time the exams are over i
would expecta bouquet of flowers from you.
(one of white roses,one of mild yellow ones..the yellow ones are kind of jatang..u kno wat i mean,one of tulips the lavender ones..again the purple is very jatang and one of some nice hill flowers those tiny ones which look cute).

i have no idea why but i just have to write about this ...that too now.
(dont think dirty stuff already).
i wanna write on women's liberation and rights.
(dont bang your head yet...there's lot more).
some days ago in a shittable group i saw this poll.quoting it as well as can i can remember : "would progressive men marry a woman who's not a virgin."
i reread it to make myself sure.
and my anger was already rising.
i mean like who the hell are men to think they are higher mortals than women.i nearly sent a hate mail to that group.(note:nearly ...i didnt).
it just stayed at the back of my head...gnawing at me all the while and its still there.
there are two things i got angry about.one how can people who live in today's world yelling for women's lib. create a poll saying would men marry... if that's the case then where does the women's right to choose her husband come in....how can you treat her as though a commodity for a man to pick and choose.
second what does a woman being a virgin or not have to do with you marrying her... and that too progressive men. if men were progressive then his question would never rise.just think about it. if a guy and girl are dating seriously for some years.they really love each other.the guy wouldnt say no for they to sleep together.he would infact welcome the suggestion.but he's definitely not sure that he is going to marry her.so would he stop to think that if he slept with her that some other progressive man wouldnt marry her.and even so why does the question of it being a woman come in .shouldnt it be that a man too should a virgin...how come that part of it clearly softly unerringly undoubtedly smartly and non-chalantly left out.
its as though it totally doesnt count.i mean why would be a question men are just higher mortals.
i waited calmly for sometime.the thought raging in my head.i am still waiting to send a lashing mail to that group.but thats not the point.
more than everything what really set me off was the fact that the poll had people answering to both sides.
people actually said no.
and that too 50% of those who had voted.thats exactly half.it just means there are so many people out there who still think in this constricted manner about women.and there we are thinking that women are being liberated in rural areas...may be i should say i thought so...i didnt expect women to be totally liberated.. but atleast comparatively somewhat better than during the olden days..but now i have my doubts over it.
if we here in the city, those of us who are progressive having enough to afford the computers and the net and other services... we who are educated in accord wiht the modern day worls, we who are exposed to the realities of life, we who know that women's lib. is important(i hope that we know) actually have doubts about whether its progressive for men to marry women who mightnt be virgin's...just what is the plight of women who live in backward areas of life...

and the best part is yet to come.. most of those who voted saying no were guys.(to the best of my knowledge).
if you are asking what i did.... i didnt do anything.i didnt vote.it was too disgusting to even see the poll.according to me it shouldnt even be a question ...leave alone answering it.
its totally a women's own right to decide for herself on everything...
i wonder if it were will progressive women marry men who arent virgins would the answers have the same from those guys who had voted against it...